EPISODE 123: The Subtle Work: How Slowing Down Accelerates Your Growth
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Po: Welcome to the Tao of Po Podcast. I'm your host, Po-Hong Yu, aka Big Red, aka Po, aka all kinds of nicknames because Po pretty much goes with everything. I'm a mystic, a spiritual guide, a medicine woman, and a somatic energy healer.
Po: My soul's work is to guide people back to the wisdom that lives in their bodies and to heal unprocessed pain, so they can have the space to cultivate their gifts and then radiate their light and their work out into the world. Everything I teach is based on the foundation of Taoism with an emphasis on Yin, which is feminine energy. It's the internal, the deep, the dark, the soft, the surrendered, and the receptive energy that is arising in the collective. In this podcast, you'll receive soul treats in the form of three kinds of episodes that support this time of awakening. Inner child alchemy sessions, solo transmissions from my heart, and conversations with people where we explore the full range of topics that make people human and divine. I hope you enjoy. Let's get into it.
Po: Hello, friends. Welcome back. So before I get into my transmission, I want to share a little bit about what's happening in my life right now. I'm surprisingly feeling really juicy and delicious right now, which I'm saying surprisingly because I've been working my ass off. I have been juggling three different projects with tight deadlines. And not only that, I've been using my brain in a way that I'm not used to for the last eight months. I literally have been like, my head is like, oh my God, it hurts. Creating all this back end systems, I've been making, having to make decisions, tons of decisions.
So mental fatigue and decision fatigue is so real. And I've been creating all kinds of content behind the scenes. And I'm just not somebody who is used to putting things into a structured form.
My transmissions are all free flowing. The work I do is very intuitive. And so adding in structure into content that I'm creating is more challenging for me. But it's also good because I get to exercise my brain in a different way. I feel like I'm going to a gym for my brain. I'm like, okay, three more, two more, doing reps and shit. But it also feels really good and delicious right now because I think that I'm close to an end of one project. That always helps when you can see the finish line.
You're like, yes, oh my God, it's almost here. But I have other projects too. And so this project is called Microdosing 101, the ultimate beginner's guide. So it's a free resource for those of you who have been curious about microdosing and has all the science behind it, literally all the questions that people ask me. I poured my heart into this. So it's almost ready.
And I'm super excited to share it with you when it is. But that's just an example. There's other things too. And I also think that it feels really good because I'm feeling really on purpose. This doesn't mean that I'm always feeling good about it. Like I've definitely had many moments of feeling stressed out about these projects and feeling on the edge of overwhelm, right?
And then needing to do my own practices that I teach. But right now, I'm like, oh, it feels so good. It feels so good to, you know, follow through with my calling and being of service and really providing resources and support for people that really desire to do the type of work that I provide. And also, I have been following the magical breadcrumbs, you know, you know, I talk about that and like following the energy. And I booked a retreat center, you guys.
Like it literally happened out of nowhere. And I wanted to talk about it not only because I want to share about the retreat, but I also wanted to talk about it because, you know, a lot of times in our mind, we think that, you know, black and white, you know, like after a retreat I did a couple of years ago, I was like, oh, I don't think, you know, retreats is for me. And I really loved doing it. But I think it just wasn't the right type of retreat for me.
And like the setup and things like that. So I was kind of like, no, I'm not into retreats. But then a couple of months ago, I was listening to the magical breadcrumbs and it guided me to feel this desire to do a retreat, which shocked me.
And I've heard it from a couple of people mentioning it to me. And if you all know, I follow human design. I'm a manifesting generator. And so my strategy is to respond. You may or may not know what this means. That's okay.
You can google it. But it has changed my life in my business, right? Like really listening to what the quote unquote human network is saying and asking for. And so there were multiple people that were asking me about retreats or saying, oh, I think you would be great at creating retreats because, you know, obviously the work I do is very experiential. So I was like, okay, I'm paying attention universe. And I opened up to it and my whole body said yes. And I was like, oh, that's shocking.
Right. So I had to be willing to not be in a box and be like, no, I said I wasn't going to do retreats and I'm not going to do it. Instead, I was like, okay, let me feel into that. And then this desire came up and I was like, okay, that's surprising, but I'm here for it.
Let me just go with the flow. And then I started doing some casual researching of retreat centers or Airbnb houses or whatever, just seeing what was out there. And I stumbled upon, divinely of course, the most stunning property. And you guys, you may or may not know this about me, but I am so fucking particular.
So particular about aesthetics and beauty, like in like quality and things like that. And so I saw a gazillion different things when I was casually researching, but when I saw and they were all like, no, hell no, you know, and it just didn't light me up. But then I saw this place and I was like, oh my God, my whole body was a yes. And I booked it right away. I was like, this is what I'm doing. I'm completely all in. And even though it's in, you know, Tulum, which is a very touristy space, which usually I'm like, my body's like, no, I was surprised.
I was like, yes. And probably because it's located in a biosphere reserve, you guys, like literally it's secluded and it has its own private beach. I mean, the property is massive and it's completely private with no tourists. Like literally, it's just our space that we get to, you know, rest and heal and play and laugh and dance and all the things together. And so I'm so excited about it. It's called soul renewal retreat. And it really is meant to be a space for women to celebrate their true selves, embody their true selves, really expand into their true selves, like, you know, really tapping into that essence inside of you and also like your feminine nature, right? Your sensuality, the truth of who you are, just next level, right? Really tapping into the next level of your freedom. And this is the perfect place for it.
Like it's just so good. I want you guys to check out the page I created for it. The link is below and you will see the photos and the video. And I'm like, oh my God, I am so excited. The food is next level. Like the ceremonies we're going to have, like, I just want you to see all the things that come with it. It's all inclusive. And it's for seven days, six nights.
So you get to really just like deeply rest your nervous system. But also you all know me. I love to laugh. So, you know, play is going to be a part of it. We're going to do optional micro dosing, right?
So if you've been interested in micro dosing, this might be a good time to join us. The rooms are just so like cozy, chic luxury. And it's just like next level.
And there's like tents too, like, you know, glamping tents. I mean, just, oh my God, I'm so excited. And also, you know, the timing of it, I think is so important to mention because in person connection is something that so many of us are desiring.
I know I am and I know so many other people are. And it's time to gather in person, right, to be in community, to be in sisterhood. And I know sometimes people are afraid to be in like these intimate spaces in community because maybe they have sisterhood wounds or, you know, they're afraid to be witnessed and seen or, you know, they tend to hide. But this is exactly why to come, right? To face those parts, lean in, allow yourself to be held, you know, allow yourself to have fun because it's going to be all those things. Allow yourself to heal in sisterhood.
And, you know, there's going to be plenty of space to rest and relax. I mean, this is not going to be the kind of retreat where you're just going to be like, you know, I just, it's not about fixing. It's about surrendering and softening and allowing yourself to be in that space of self-love so that you can expand into the next level.
Not about like drilling in, you got to do workshop after workshop or whatever, right? It's not like that. And so it's going to be the perfect schedule and setting and, you know, the magic on this land. You could just feel it through the pictures. And I just have no doubt that is going to be absolutely incredible.
And there's only a maximum 15 participants that can join. There's going to be, you know, somatic healing. There's going to be yoga. There's going to be meditation, sweat lodge, cacao ceremony, sound healing, you know, and coaching for me and all kinds of other stuff, like just so good. Check out the website and see how it feels in your body. And if your body lights up, then come and make sure to put a deposit before the end of August, because that's when the pre-early bird special ends.
And then there's another special, which is the regular early bird special from September 1st to November 30th. But get the room that you want. You can come with a friend, right?
It's going to be so good, you guys. And I would love, love, love to connect with you in person. And it's going to be like gentle and subtle and deep, you know, and this is kind of like a good transition, actually, into my transition, transition to my transmission, because I really wanted to talk about how going deep doesn't mean going hard and fast. And so, you know, that's going to be the same thing with the retreat. We're going to go deep, but doesn't mean it's going to be like this hard and fast. And like, you need to push through and you need to, you know, excavate all the things and this and that, right?
It's like there's no force involved. When you do the work that I guide you in, it really is about meeting yourself where you are and listening to your body wisdom, right? What is your body needing and allowing yourself to be nurtured there and nourished there? And this land and myself and the staff on the property are going to be there to nourish you, right? You're going to leave the retreat feeling renewed, refreshed and ready to receive, because this is really what it's about. We're going to expand our capacity to receive whatever it is that you're desiring, more financial abundance, more connection, more love, more sex, right? You're going to feel juicier in your body.
It's going to be so fucking good. So again, check it out. But yeah, the subtle right, the subtle, the nuanced work, it requires you to be so present, so present. And it's funny because like, I should probably call myself a meditation teacher, because ultimately, that is what I'm doing when I teach people how to move through life, how to create flow in the life, how to create space in their life, how to, you know, up level their relationship with themselves and with other people, et cetera, right?
To create a business, like, or to expand their business. It really is about being so present with yourself that you can drop into those subtleties, into those nuances that are within you, because if you don't have that kind of patience, and if you are being unkind to yourself and saying, oh, I need to rush and I need to hurry up, I need to be here, I'm late, right? Then you're going to miss all the juiciness, all the expansion, all the goodness that is available to you, right?
Going fast and like, I won't say just going fast, because you absolutely can go fast and not bypass, right? Because we all have our seasons. There's seasons where you're going to go faster and sprint. There's going to be seasons that you're going to be crawling. There's going to be seasons that you're resting and not moving at all.
There's going to be seasons that you're just taking a casual walk, metaphorically, in your healing experience. But when you are forcing yourself to be somewhere that you're not, that is bypassing. That is you dismissing where you are. That inevitably brings you to a place of feeling like, I'm not getting what I want.
I can't shift or I've done all this work and I'm not changing or I'm not growing, I'm not expanding. It's probably because of this piece, right? A lot of times, so many women have come to me feeling broken, right? Because they have done so much work or that hasn't worked for them or whatever, or they just feel broken because of their past history. But the thing that is the problem with this is that if you are feeling broken, a lot of times you feel like you need to be fixed, right? And I don't fix people and I don't encourage anybody to fix themselves. Nobody's broken in my eyes, right? No matter what you have been through, and I've been through a lot of shit. And yes, I did feel broken for many years, but until I let that go, I wasn't able to, you know, like when I was able to let that goes, when I was able to really shift into, you know, the path of true freedom. And so this idea of feeling like you need to be fixed is such a block, right? And probably a way of sabotaging your expansion, right?
That's for you to judge and decide for yourself. But slowing down, oh my god, there's so much juiciness in slowing down. I did a anger alchemy session in my coming home to you program, and I did an extra slow one. And everybody was like, oh my god, that was so good because they got to feel, they got to meet themselves. They didn't feel like they had to rush or feel like they had to perform. And a lot of times women feel like they need to perform if they need to hurry up, right? If you think about it, actually with sex, oh my god, this is such a great analogy, because I know for me, you know, when the sex, you know, there's times for sure that I like to go harder and faster for sure. But I was able to, at the beginning, it's because I was able to slow down at the beginning, right? I was able to like drop into my body and feel all the nooks and crannies and sensations and all the parts of my body, right? And if you're having sex faster, then, and that's not the resonant stroke for you, then you can feel like you need to perform. You can feel like, like the performance piece is so big when it comes to somatic healing work.
I hear it all the time, women are like, oh, I feel like I need to, you know, be at a certain level. And so they perform for themselves or in a group, right? It doesn't even mean that it's like me watching them, but even for themselves, they feel like they need to perform. And so when you slow down, it takes away that pressure to perform because you're meeting yourself where you are. And like with this with sex, I found in my life that when I, you know, when my partner would go faster and I didn't have the sovereignty to speak up and say, you know, can you slow down? And I just went with it. How many of us have done that?
I mean, everyone, right? Like there's so many of us who do that, if not all, and I would go into performance mode. Like I'd start moaning louder. Like I was enjoying it when really I was thinking, I wish this was slower, right? And so there's this way that we can go into this performance mode, which actually blocks us from what we truly desire underneath it. And so this is the case with sex, with healing, with anything, right? When we are not able to be with what is, then we just start going into our head and creating all these scenarios that are not resonant. And we find ourselves like questioning, like, what the fuck did I do that?
You know? And so, yeah, like this piece around going slow and pausing even, like it doesn't even mean that you have to, like you could literally stop. You could just literally stop and just be with what is. And the subtlety of the work is the most profound in my experience.
And I feel like a lot of times when people think about work with me, they think that it's like going to be this, like I said, hard and fast, or it's going to be like this, right? It's like so opposite from what's true. It's so gentle.
It's so subtle. And that's really my medicine, you know? Like, yes, we go into the deep dive, you know, I had a client this past weekend, she had a deep dive with me, and it was so beautiful. And, you know, a lot of times people will be like, oh, I want to get, you know, I have this expectation of getting this out of this work, right? And I always nip that in the bud, you know, not that they ever say it like that. But, you know, you can always tell when somebody is coming from a space of wanting to be fixed and wanting it yesterday.
And so I always have to remind people, of course, this is a journey, but like, this is about dropping in to meet yourself so that you can actually get the thing that you came for. You know, it's kind of like a car. And if you are out of oil, right, or you need a oil change, if you start driving really fast on the highway, your engine's probably going to be smoking, right? It's probably going to break down at some point. I mean, I don't know about mechanics, but probably, right? But what would happen if you just slow down, assessed what was happening, right, with the car, and took care of it and realized, oh, I need a oil change, right? That one little adjustment would literally change your whole road trip, right? And but if you're in a hurry and feel like you need to be there already, you're going to fuck that car up, right?
And you're not going to get there. And probably the person who came, you know, left after you who did the oil chain would go, you know, get there before you, right? And so this piece around making that one degree shift, but the pivotal shift that you need, right?
That's the root that the gap that has been missing for you will change everything moving forward. For example, my client who had this deep dive over the weekend, it was so gorgeous because she was able to connect with her heart and her inner child in a way she never has before. Like she didn't know how tender her heart was and how tender her inner child was. She didn't know, right? And so that new relationship that she has with her heart and her inner child will completely shift her path of healing and growth moving on from here, right? Every day from here on out will completely be different for her in her process because that one thing is the key that she needed, right? But when you are coming from a place of like, oh, I'm broken and I need to be fixed and like everything needed to be fixed by yesterday, you would ignore that amazing gift and the power of that gift and what that means in the bigger scheme of things, right? And so often in our culture, we're taught that, oh, it has to be this big thing and it's so not true.
It's usually those little small tweaks that we have been ignoring. We have pushed under the rug, the parts of us that we have ignored and dismissed when we actually connect with that part, then everything opens up for us, right? And so my invitation to you is to really look at where you might be doing this for yourself, where you're like putting your attention on having this kind of result and when and putting pressure on yourself and forcing yourself or judging yourself and being impatient with yourself. Instead, drop into the part of you that actually needs the attention and care and love and what adjustment needs to be made.
Maybe the adjustment is like my client where you need to connect with that part of you. And I realize sometimes it's not as easy for some people, especially if they have pushed away so much of their pain and trauma that they feel very numb and disconnected from themselves, right? And so that's why doing the work with a guide or a deep dive or something like that, that can unlock that piece for you so that you can actually have the connection with that part of you that you have pushed away for so long, right? Or some of you might just be able to connect with that just for me prompting it right now, right?Like really dropping into feeling, what is that part you have been really bypassing within yourself? And can you let it be enough to put your attention on that instead of this big shiny thing over here, right? Which is just a distraction. It's just a way to keep you from doing the actual real work, right? That true work, that foundational work that most people are skipping, you know? Like it's so funny because again, people expect my work to look a certain way and to be maybe showy or I don't know what people expect, but my guess is they have a certain idea of what my work looks like. And I just wanna like bust any myths here that like so much of the work I do is about this part that I'm talking about, like really connecting with what is and it's really the integration work, you know? Yes, I do deep dives with people and things like that, but the integration work, like the day-to-day work, the ways that you are with yourself, moment to moment, those practices that you're doing or not doing, those will impact your life, right?
And so I'm not here for the quick fix, even though the work that I do is actually quicker. People are surprised. They're like, oh my God, I can't believe that I have been able to make this shift so fast.
I never thought I could ever get here actually in my lifetime or like one of my clients that like this is the first time I felt in flow since I was a kid, you know, 40-something years, she never felt in flow. So, you know, the slow work, the nuanced work is actually the accelerated fast work. It's literally the opposite of what you think it is, right? And so it requires you to shift your perspective and be willing to see what work is really, right? Like everything that you have been, you know, thinking or consuming or taking in from the collective around fixing and, you know, all that stuff, question it, is it true?
Has it worked for you, you know, like really see for yourself what it is that you may be skipping? And a lot of times people want to skip the integration work. Everybody wants to just do a big ayahuasca journey and not do the, you know, do the work afterwards, right? Like they want to do whatever, you know, go to a Joe Dispenser retreat and that's it. Everything will be good.
No, those people need to do the integration work afterwards too, right? Like you cannot escape. You cannot escape humanity. You cannot escape the fact that it's gonna require you to show up, right? And showing up doesn't mean being impatient. It doesn't mean being hard on yourself. It just means that you are committed to doing the work, whatever that is for you, right?
And so I find so often that people are just avoiding the day-to-day work. They don't want to do it. They don't want to do it. They just want a magic wand. They want that magic pill. And like I said, microdosing is not a magic pill, but it's a skill. It's an art that has magical results.
But even with microdosing, you need to show up to do the work, right? And, you know, I think this is why there's such a culture of like pill popping and wanting, you know, all these external things to change your life. And it's like, no, you guys, you know, I don't know who needs to hear this right now, but somebody does, but like, no, like that is not going to do it, right?
And I've just seen it over and over again. And also just my own personal life. Like I, it just, you just got to be in reality, right? Being in an illusion, having a fantasy that, you know, this thing is going to change everything and I don't need to do anything afterwards. And not that, you know, maybe you're not thinking that consciously, but maybe that's a subconscious thought that you have. And if you have a pattern of not having the change that you desire, it might be because of this.
Maybe you are holding this subconscious belief, you know, that you just want something outside of you to fix you. But I will never, never encourage, you know, that. And that's why when I do a deep dive, I always require my clients to work with me three months before to prepare and three months afterwards, right? Because I don't know if they're gonna do the work and I'm in integrity with my work. And so I wouldn't feel right personally, you know, I don't judge anybody else for how they do their work, but personally I want to provide the space for them to do the integration work and be accountable.
Cause I know that most people, it's hard to be accountable when they don't have somebody holding them accountable. Just like me, I have a trainer at the gym because I need that. I need somebody, I need to be like, I have it on the schedule, they're gonna expect me to be there, right? I know that I need that for myself when it comes to weightlifting. And so, you know, people need that for the healing work too. And it's not because, you know, I think that everybody needs it, but I think that there's a lot of people that need that level of accountability and holding and guidance and hand holding, right? To remind them and to support them in the work, right?
Especially if you haven't done it before or are new to it or are new to somatic healing or whatever modality, then of course it makes sense, right? You're not gonna go into a jungle in Costa Rica by yourself, right? You're gonna hire a guide to walk you through that jungle, right?
Cause there's all kinds of snakes and shit that you're like, I don't know. So, yeah. And, you know, I just think it's so important, you guys, that I land this point about going deeper doesn't mean going harder and faster, right? Like, please, please notice for yourself is this is something that you are carrying, right? If this is a belief that you are holding onto and then as a result are making judgments and shaming yourself for not being where you think you should be, right?
Because that belief system will for sure create that thought and self-judgment, right? But once you see that, oh, all the juice is in those subtle moments, right? And those little shifts and those 1% shifts and those one degree shifts, literally my client, that heart piece that I said, like her connecting to her heart and her inner child, the next day I saw her for integration session and she already had another opening. She was able to hear her inner child's voice and listen to it and followed that voice, right?
In the past, and she realized this, she had a huge insight realizing that those moments that she was judging herself, it was her judging her inner child's voice. And maybe you can relate to that, right? How many times are you hearing something or feeling something, a need for something where like, she was saying that, she took a week off for vacation and she just kept hearing this judgment of her resting, essentially. She kept on thinking, oh, I should be doing this and I should be doing this with my time. But instead, her inner child or part of her needed that rest, right? And so she realized for herself how she has been judging her inner child's needs, her inner child's voice.
And she had a moment that day of like really hearing a couple of times her inner child's voice and actually like honoring it. And that is that one degree shift, right? And I've talked about this many times. You make a one degree shift. If you think about geometry, literally you will end up in a completely different trajectory, like literally completely different, so different.
It's not even the same atmosphere, like literally completely different, right? And so do not minimize the one degree shifts. Do not minimize the 1% work.
Those little pieces are what changed the entire game. For example, when you do yoga, right? The yoga teacher isn't trying to tell you to like do a huge shift. Like that would break your back, right? Your body would be like, oh, hell no. But if you, they make a small adjustment, that perfect adjustment that you need in your body in that moment, and then you feel every other part of your body align, right?
Just from that one adjustment. This is the same thing, right? Can you allow that one little subtle piece do a domino effect, right? Because it will. For my client in the deep dive, it is going to, that is the thing that is opening up. It like literally opened up the door for her, right?
And that's gonna allow her to have more breakthroughs and more openings, more moments of healing, more deeper connection with herself, and then having what it is that she actually desired and intended for during the deep dive, right? And so, I just again, invite you to question and look within and be curious about where it is in your mind or your thoughts, your body, maybe feel tension in your body when you're thinking about slowing down, like be with that part, right? What is that part reflecting to you? What is it about slowing down that makes you uncomfortable?Why do you resist it? I have a framework that I created and the second phase of the framework is the somatic healing framework. I mean, the somatic healing phase. And the reason why is second is because it takes time for people to be able to drop into their bodies like that, right?
Like we need to do the first phase, which is the creating space phase. And I have a private client right now who, couple, actually, I mean, actually, a couple of them. I mean, it's so common. This is like what I see all the time because dropping into the body is the thing that scares people the most. And they don't realize it. They don't think it consciously. They just are resisting that work, right? And they'll find reasons of why not to do that work. And so it's not like they're like, oh, I'm afraid to feel, be in my body.
No, it's more like they'll just keep on resisting doing the practices. And so it really is a process of being able to be with yourself, right? And it takes time and commitment and all the things. But I bring that up to say that like noticing, like if your body is like, oh, you know, that makes me tense, the thought of slowing down, right? The thought of pausing, the thought of being with something that I'm not used to being with, maybe that brings up sensations in your body and I invite you to feel them and be with them and be curious, like I said, be explore what is in the undercurrents?
What is it that is living under there that is keeping you from doing that kind of work, right? And being going fast and hard all the time and forcing and pressuring yourself, that's easy. That's the easy work, even though it may on the surface look like that must be hard, yes, it's suffering, right? Suffering is always easier than the work that I'm talking about, even though it's really not.People are scared of it because they're scared to be in their bodies, right? And the way I describe suffering is really being disconnected and believing the lies in your head and really being out of reality, being out of the present and creating a spin cycle of thoughts that are not true and just being in the belief system, like really believing those beliefs that are not real. And I say not real in that, it's like not really questioning them, right? Because it's real in a sense that you're having those beliefs, but pain on the other side is like what you feel, like the raw emotions and the stuff in the undercurrents, right, the sensations that you might be feeling, being with what's true underneath there. And so when I say it's easier to be in the suffering, I mean it. I mean, otherwise more people would do the work of being with their pain, right? And when I say pain, it's just like moments of it. It doesn't mean that you're in pain all the time. It just means that you're allowing yourself to soften into feeling whatever is bubbling up for you in the moment, right, just honoring your body, honoring your emotions.
And when you do that, it actually moves very quickly. It's like 90 seconds, two minutes, you know, when you allow yourself to feel pain, you know, whether it's grief or your anger or whatever it is, right? But suffering on the other hand, it literally can be a part of your life every second of every day for the rest of your life, right? And there are definitely people who have experienced that and will continue to.
So yes, suffering, living in that way is easier. That's why people do it, but being able to face yourself and go deeper and be with the subtleties and, you know, really love on yourself, that's harder. I mean, you know, up until a certain point, then you start picking up momentum, right? And then it becomes easier and you're like, oh my God, what took me so long? Why was I resisting?
It wasn't bad, like I thought I would be, right? It's the anticipation, I think, that people are afraid of. They think that they're going to lose control. They think they're gonna get stuck in the darkness. They feel like they're going to be depressed again if they have a history of depression, right? They don't know what to expect because they've not been there before. They don't know what it is on the other side.
It's uncertain, it's unknown, right? It's the yin energy, but the suffering, they know it. They understand it.
It's like a security blanket. They've been with it, right? So they know every single nook and cranny corner of that suffering, but the pain and the undercurrents and that yin energy and what's in the soil is totally new. And so they're anticipating the worst, but honestly, you guys, it's not scary like you think it is.
I swear to God, especially when you are working with a guide that knows how to guide you in a way that feels accessible, that feels, that works with your pace, right? Like it's just not like what you think it is. Like I just, I wish I could scream it from the mountain tops right now. Like I feel so hype about it because, you know, people just have this idea of what this work is and it's just not that. And it doesn't mean that, you know, moments of resistance won't come up, right? We're wired in a certain way, right? It's natural to not want to feel, right? It's like, so it's not like a bad thing if you're resisting the work, but, you know, just know that there's another way, you know?
That's really what I'm saying. And it's not as bad as what you anticipate it to be. And I actually had my client wrote a testimonial for me and she's like, I wish I had like, you know, trusted psychedelic medicine sooner and met post sooner and did this work sooner.
Cause she, I think she, and I don't know what she meant by that, but I really feel like she probably thought that it was going to be harder and scarier than what she anticipated to, right? So yeah, it's actually so much more rich. I think that's the word that I'm looking for. Yeah, it's so rich, you know? It's like well-nourished soil. It's so fertile, right? When we, you know, if you think about soil, there's some soil that's so good and nourished and like the produce, like plants are just like so happy in it. And it's cause it's like has all the minerals and nutrients and the sun and the, you know, water and all the things that it needs. And then there's some soil that's just like crumbly and like really lacking in all that richness.
And the way I see it is, you know, the person who is doing the deeper work, you know, the body work, the somatic work, the embodiment work, which is the piece that most women are avoiding. That's when the fertile soil happens, right? And then the dry soil is the woman that is brittle, that has, you know, has been avoiding their body. And so we, and I wanna tell you the soil can be replenished, right? And we can put compost in there.
We can do all kinds of things to support that soil to get all rich and fertile again. For example, the retreat. Sorry, I had to say that. Anyway, that's true.
It's true. Like we need replenishment. We need moments, you know, like to be supported in times where we feel dry and brittle and like, or, you know, we don't, when we need that support, it's just true. And I know I've needed it many times. I have a healer. Healer needs healers, you know, coaches need coaches. Holders need holders, right? Like, and, you know, everybody needs them at different times too.
So, but yeah. So I guess the question for you is like, is your soil fertile and rich, or is your soil, you know, dry and crusty? And are you willing to like do the work to make it nice and juicy? And yeah.
And slowing down and being with that, that subtlety in your body is absolutely the thing that will support you in that, right? Okay. So that's all I got for you all. Hope you enjoyed this. Hope you got something out of it. Please share this episode with a friend and share it on Instagram if you feel like it was impactful for you and tag me. I always love resharing stories. And yeah, I will talk to you all next time.
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