EPISODE 121: The Body Remembers: Finding Support in Grief
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Po: Welcome to the Tao Po Podcast. I'm your host, Po-Hong Yu, aka Big Red, aka Po, aka all kinds of nicknames because Po pretty much goes with everything. I'm a mystic, a spiritual guide, a medicine woman, and a somatic energy healer. My soul's work is to guide people back to the wisdom that lives in their bodies and to heal unprocessed pain so they can have the space to cultivate their gifts and then radiate their light and their work out into the world.
Everything I teach is based on the foundation of Taoism with an emphasis on Yin, which is feminine energy. It's the internal, the deep, the dark, the soft, the surrendered, and the receptive energy that is arising in the collective. In this podcast, you'll receive soul treats in the form of three kinds of episodes that support this time of awakening. Inner child alchemy sessions, solo transmissions from my heart, and conversations with people where we explore the full range of topics that make people human and divine.
I hope you enjoy. Let's get into it. Hello, everyone. Welcome back. So I'm going to be completely transparent with you all. Today's episode was supposed to be an interview with a guest and just couldn't get my energy up to record an intro for that episode.
And of course, for intros, I want to have more light energy and excitement to introduce them. I just couldn't do it because I have been emotionally tired. Today is my mom's death anniversary. And so I have been having emotional releases starting on Sunday and then again this morning. And so I was communicating with my podcast producers and I said, maybe I should just record an episode about what I'm going through instead, because then I can just talk to you like normal, not try to be put on a fake excited voice, trying to introduce somebody.
And they were like, that sounds great. And so here I am. So yeah, I want to share this with you because I know you all appreciate the behind the scenes and hearing about my experience and how I move through things because that can support you. And so yeah, today is my mom's death anniversary. It's actually today and tomorrow because she had a brain aneurysm almost 20 years ago, 2005. So it was out of nowhere and she went brain dead immediately. And we didn't unplug her until the following day.
So that's why it's a two day anniversary. But what I found over the last many years after she's crossed over is that the body remembers, right? The body remembers everything.
If you've been listening to me for a while, you know that the body holds memories, holds emotions, holds all kinds of things from our past, whether it's trauma, incidents, wounds, or somebody dying. And so every year I would find myself getting emotional before my mom's death anniversary. And then I'd start, you know, I didn't know why.
And then I'd look at the calendar. I'm like, oh yeah. And I've talked about this before because it's kind of like a mirror to, you know, when you get PMS and you feel emotional and you don't know why. And then you look at the calendar and you're like, oh, okay, yeah, I'm getting my period.
Or you got your period and you're like, oh, this is why, right? So it's like that in a way. And so that was happening for a while. And then I actually had a period of time it wasn't happening as much.
But then this year just like full force, you know, big time. And I want to talk about this too, because, you know, grief has cycles. It goes in cycles. And there's no rhyme or reason for these cycles. They just are what they are. And we just need to move with them and, you know, through them.
But I do feel like they mirror things that are happening in our life, like places that we might be opening into. Maybe we're stepping into a new level. Like for me, example, I'm stepping into a new level in my life and connected to home and family. And so it's bringing up these old feelings around home and family. And so it makes sense that, you know, this year around my mom's death anniversary, I might be more sensitive and I am. So I believe that, you know, depending on what is happening in our life, it can become more intensified, our emotions could be more intensified. In other years, it might be not as much.
And, you know, like I said, this year has just been like full force. And also, I've been doing a lot of deep work around this piece, like I mentioned around home, you know, I have abandonment wounds, like, and I really believe all of us do, right? Even if you came from a perfect home, which I don't even know what that even means, there's gotta be, I mean, I know people out there that don't have trauma, I know that is possible. But so many people that I've talked to have always felt like even if they came from a really healthy upbringing, they felt a sense of abandonment in some ways.
So I really feel like this is a very normal experience to have. There's a spectrum, right? So for some people, it's more intense and some people it's less intense.
But that's what I'm seeing, you know, and for sure, it's my experience. So, you know, that is very connected to home for me. And so I've been doing this work and so all these emotions are flooding. And so those of you who have loved ones who have crossed over may or may not have experienced this maybe you haven't noticed the pattern, but now you can look back and like, oh yeah, that's true.
I do get emotional around that time of the year. Or maybe some of you who have not experienced a loved one crossing, now you can start to understand this. So when it happens, you can be ahead of the curve, I guess, you know, because you can prepare for it. It totally caught me off this year because it hasn't been something that I have been experiencing a lot recently. But I do think it's a really powerful practice to have consciousness around the date, you know, and I was talking to my best friend today. And I love that, you know, she was like, you know, reminding me to create, you know, some kind of ritual every year beforehand to honor my mom and to celebrate my mom and to just, you know, pay respect and reverence to her. And I love that.
And so I'm just going to overflow that onto you all, because, you know, then we don't have to be caught off guard, then we can be really intentional in our practice of connection. And if you've been following me and you've been listening to me, you probably know that I have a very intimate relationship with my mom on the other side. I do work in the energetic realm and also the spirit realm. I'm not like talking to ghosts or anything like that. But like, you know, I connect with ancestors and I help my clients sometimes do that. And that has for sure been my experience of, you know, really cultivating a relationship with my mom in the spirit realm.
And that that looks like me, you know, talking to her, maybe writing to her, but for most of the time, it's really just feeling her in my heart. And, you know, honoring her really. And, you know, at the end of my meditations, I'll say little something at the end, you know, like thanking her, thanking my stepfather, thanking my ancestors, thanking Sours, thanking my furry friends on the other side, thanking my human friends on the other side. And then I'll say something like, you know, thank you for holding me, you know, guiding me and loving me. And I'm listening, you know, and in other times outside of meditation, you know, I'll just have these feelings of connection with her. And so there's ways that we can be connected to our loved ones, even though they're not here. One being creating an altar, you know, altars in Chinese culture is very normal. And I was raised having altars in my house and nothing super elaborate, but, you know, pictures of those that have crossed over, maybe a place for incense and with the fruit, maybe some oranges or whatever, you know, so there's all kinds of ways you can create an altar, but essentially, it is a beautiful way to remember those on the other side, because, you know, if you get busy and your day to day is just like, you know, doing the same thing and you're in your routine, and it's easy to forget to connect, right?
It's easy to like, not do it. And but if you see the altar, it's a great way to honor and remember those people that are on the other side. And so, you know, connecting with your loved ones can happen internally, it can be an external ritual, it can be anything that you want it to be. For me, it's usually very subtle and internal, because that's how I am, you know, I do, I do more of that kind of work. I don't need it to look a certain way.
I don't need to do anything. Some people like that, right? So, everybody's different. But yeah, understanding that your body remembers these things and to be really kind to yourself by allowing those emotions to move through if they are alive in you. This morning, I, you know, just started having all this emotion coming up and just like, tears, so many tears.
My eyes are puffy right now. And I just created my space, you know, to let let it move through me. I rescheduled my training appointment few hours later. So, my day got started a little bit later, right? I was conscious of what I needed. And so, I gave myself what I needed. And that's something that I highly encourage you, you know, whether it's around grief or something else, but we're specifically talking about grief, like, really love on yourself in this way. Like, how can you honor the grief that lives inside of you and allow it to have its rightful place? A lot of times people are so afraid to feel the grief because it's so painful. Like, you literally, well, I don't know about you, but I know, I know a lot of people, and I know for myself, there's like a heartache, like a literal physical ache in your heart, right?
I feel this ache. And it's like so deep, because the love is so deep. You know, grief is love, and love is grief, because in order to feel grief, you needed to, then needed to be a connection there, there needed to be that love there, right? And in vice versa, in order to love somebody, then the grief will come. And it doesn't even have to just be a person, it can be a place.
Like, I had to grieve my home in Brooklyn. There's an episode, I can't remember the number, but it was about transitions. Transitions was in the name of it, and I talked about it because I had a fire in my Brooklyn apartment, and I had to evacuate along with, you know, like 19 other apartments.
And that's eventually how I got to Miami. But, you know, there was a lot of grief in letting go of that home, right? Because I love that home. It was like a place that I created, and I was talking earlier about how I'm talking, you know, I'm working a lot around home and family.
And this is part of it, right? Really letting go of that Brooklyn home and creating the next home for myself. The place that I'm living right now has been unbelievable, like, it has been a womb for me, W-O-M-B, right? It's been like a womb. I moved here, and this space held me through so much, not only the pandemic and all that stuff that was happening for all of us at that time, but so much, like, deep wounds were coming up to be alchemized and healed.
And that all happened in here. And I just love this little casita, which means guest house in Spanish. It's literally a property with trees all over. It's so spacious, so private.
It's behind a main house, and the main house has not had anybody living in it for the three and a half years that I've been here. And so, you know, it's been such a sanctuary for me, but I've been finding myself feeling the call, like, I've been feeling in my body this bubbling of, oh, the next thing is ready, it's time for the next phase. And I could feel this part of me of, like, not feeling like I was ready because it's like, you know, when you come out of the womb as a baby, at least for me, I don't, I mean, I don't remember that time, but I was late. I was supposed to be a Libra, you guys. I'm a Scorpio. I always joke that, like, can you even imagine me as a Libra? Like, I'm so intense. All my work is about death and rebirth and healing and transformation, which is what Scorpio is all about. If I were a Libra, I would be so airy and different. Anyways, like, I was late to be birth.
So it's like, I feel like that's what's happening within me right now is I'm like, you know, in the womb, and having another cycle of being reborn, and like, you have to go through the birth canal, right? And it's tight in there. And it's like, right?
And you got to get pushed out. And so I'm in that process now. And so, of course, it makes sense that all this emotion is coming up around my mom and that that feeling of home and family. So yeah, just like really honoring your process of grief, whatever it's for, a home, you know, a loved one, whether they died or, you know, maybe a breakup, loss of a friend, I mean, like, a job, like, you know, it could be literally anything. But, you know, during a death anniversary, like a person dying, like, it can be very intense. It's like, death is scary for most people, right? And I think so often that as humans, forget that death is even a thing. So then when a loved one passes, it just rocks your whole world, especially when it's your parent that you love so much, right?
Or maybe a sibling or a friend or whoever. And it just rocks your whole world. It just shakes you and awakens you on a whole new level. And that was definitely the case for me. I was a few months away from turning 30. I'm 48 now. And yeah, like my whole life was flipped upside down. And I was in shock for a while. Like, I was so numb and I was smoking all this weed. And I didn't want to feel any of it, right? I was the one who handled my mom's estate. I did everything. And it was a lot.
It was intense. And I didn't want to feel the grief, but thank God for my period every month for my PMS because that forced me to grieve because I was feeling emotional. So, you know, as an acupuncturist, I would tell that to my patients, you know, like they would hate having PMS. I said the benefit, you know, maybe the only benefit of having PMS is that it helps us to move those emotions that are stuck inside, right?
They need to move. And so, I was really grateful for that. That at least every month I had this moment of letting myself really feel the grief.
And the thing is like, you know, it is, it's so scary when you don't know how to grieve when it's your first time, right? Now, I'm a practiced, you know, I'm a practitioner. I'm a grief practitioner. I know how to grieve. And it's, it's of course still uncomfortable and painful, but I don't resist it.
And that's really the thing. It's like allowing yourself to embrace that process and embrace it whenever it comes up because grief, it's spontaneous and you just don't know when it's going to come up, except maybe for the death anniversary. Like that might be the only time that you can be like, oh, most likely it will happen around this time. And definitely like, you know, closer to the passing of the person, it's obviously more often and it's more spontaneous. It's just like, you just, it just, you just don't know, you know, you have no idea when it's going to happen, what's going to bring it up.
It's so, it feels so random. I remember not long after my mom died and I was a dog walker and I was walking dogs and Philly in the written house square park and I would have my sunglasses on and I would just start spontaneously crying right out of nowhere. And I remember having this thought of, you know, if a stranger sees me right now walking this dog, they would have no idea that I was in such deep pain and sadness because I had my sunglasses on and I was far away, right?
I hit it. And, you know, that really brought this deeper awareness of in general with humans, like we never know what is happening behind the scenes, behind closed doors, you know, people are constantly making assumptions about people and what they're going through or they must be happy because they're acting like this or whatever, like, or comparing yourself to other people or they must, you know, being doing so well because you just don't know. You have no idea, you have no idea what anybody is going through.
And so, you know, remembering that inspires me to be kind, right? Because you don't know what is happening for somebody. So, yeah, so grief is just spontaneous and, you know, that heart ache, it's just like it literally feels like an ache in your heart and I'm sure that you all can relate and understand this because everybody goes through grief like there's not one person I don't care who you are, who will ever, you know, die without experiencing grief at least one time.
Now, in my work as a somatic healer and a microdosing guide and a spiritual mentor, like it's so a big part of my work is teaching people how to feel. Because most people are doing everything to avoid feeling or it's just like subconscious, they're frozen, their nervous system is frozen, right? They're subconsciously afraid to feel because it feels like it's too much, they're afraid they're going to lose control, right? They're afraid of how painful it will be.
And, you know, what I can say to that is is 1% at a time. I'm at a place right now, like I said, I am a practitioner of many years and I've been feeling I've been sensitized for a long time. Before that, I was desensitized, I was disassociated, I was numb, I was very disconnected. Now, after many years of practice, I feel so much and it comes flooding out of me, right?
The expressions, the emotions, it's just like a waterfall or it's just easy, even the expression of my voice, it just comes through me. That wasn't always the case though. At the beginning, it was like I said, hell, uncomfortable. I was smoking weed to numb after my mom died. I literally didn't want to feel any of it.
I completely understand the whole process, but 1% at a time. You're probably like, why do I need to feel? Why would I even try to do that? Isn't that just asking for pain? What I'll say to you is that the more that you expand your capacity to feel your grief or rage or whatever it is, the quote unquote shadows, right? The undercurrents, the subconscious stuff, the more your capacity will expand for joy and gratitude and love, there are direct correlation between one and the other.
The more you expand in one, the more you expand in the other. And so many times, people that come to work with me want to feel more joy, right? Want to feel more peace, want to have more fulfillment in their life, but they're not able to because they have blocked to themselves from feeling all the other emotions that are scary for them. And so, if you want to have more peace in your life and feel more joy and feel more present and more connected to your loved ones, being able to feel the depths of your experience, like experiencing your human side, right? That's a big part of being a human. The whole spectrum is being human, but what part of being human are you cutting out or trying to disconnect from or numb out or avoid? Those are the parts that will help you actually live your most fulfilling life, an authentic life and feeling alive. I remember when I was numb and did not let myself feel those things, I felt dead. I felt like I was in suffering all the time, right?
It completely sucked. So comparing then to now, it's like, yeah, hell yeah. I much rather what's happening now where I'll have moments of these grief releases because the benefit is that I also feel all these other amazing states of being, like gratitude, but not only that, the love. Like I mentioned, the love and grief, they are intimately connected.
They go hand in hand. And so the more that we allow ourselves to be with our grief, the more our heart opens, the more generous we become, the more we're able to receive, right? There's that opening in our heart that allows the love to go in and out of it.
When we block ourselves from feeling the grief, it closes that door and that grief is locked inside. I had a client I talked about before in a past episode, and her mom passed like 10 years ago or something. And she was experiencing such deep grief, but she didn't give herself permission to feel it. She was drinking a lot. She was doing all these ways of numbing herself. And so as a result, she was depressed, right?
Because when you repress your emotions, whether it's anger or grief or whatever, it becomes depression. And she ended up being suicidal. She was just for years always thinking about suicide. And it wasn't until she started working with me where she started to feel her grief, feel her rage, guess what? Her depression went away. Her suicidal thoughts went away. And she didn't even microdose with me.
Microdosing supports you in this process, like big time, but you don't have to microdose in order to have results. Just feeling it. It was so powerful for me to witness her.
And it just was over a few months, you guys, right? Because she felt safe with me as I was guiding her to feel. And she was shocked. She's like, I can't believe I'm not depressed. I can't believe I'm not suicidal anymore. It's that simple sometimes, you know?
And so how can you start to open up to feeling 1% at a time? Again, it doesn't have to be a waterfall. You know, you don't have to do it.
There's no shoulds here. It's just softening, allowing yourself to have that space to be with it, especially on a death anniversary. If you know the anniversary is coming, you know, maybe you can be intentional, like I said, when my friend recommended around creating ritual around it, or maybe you're just, you know, blocking some time off, maybe you're going on a weekend solo trip to be in silence.
And maybe you take some time off of work or something, right? Like there's all kinds of ways that you can create space for yourself. And you could just be at home and just not watch as much TV and just, you know, connect with your loved one.
And maybe journal, you know, like there's so many ways that you can create space so that you can feel your connection to your loved one. And if grief needs to move, then letting that grief move, you know, letting it move through you, what in whatever ways. And sometimes that means moving your body, it might be dancing, it might be crying, it might be moaning, screaming, it could be resting, right? Like it is exhausting to, you know, have grief move through you. But after the grief moves through you, there's so much more energy that happens after that because you're cleansing and you're creating space. But when you're preparing, like go to bed earlier, drink lots of water, right? Hydrate, be in nature, take walks, ask for support.
That's what I did. I talked to my best friend today. And I was talking to her about, you know, my mom and yeah, just having somebody that you trust, whether it's a friend or maybe you hire somebody, a guide or mentor to support you and to witness you. Because really, the witnessing is so powerful when you're grieving. It's powerful to be able to move it on your own. And then something even more magical happens when someone you trust is witnessing you. Like I remember my first Scythe-Sybin mushroom deep dive with my healer because all healers need healers, all coaches need coaches, all mentors need mentors, right? That's why a lot of people who are coaches and, you know, leaders and guides, I hold space for them because every, everybody needs support. And so do I. And so my first deep dive with Scythe-Sybin, I just remember feeling like this deep and profound gratitude for my healer to witness me one-on-one, six hours.
So powerful. I never had that experience before. Yes, I've been in, you know, programs with people who would witness me, which was so powerful, right? In person, online, all the things, not diminishing those experiences at all because they were life-changing, every single one of them. And there have been many, many of them in my life, you guys. Like I have so many intimate and vulnerable experiences where I let people see me, you know, and that changes my life every single time.
And I continue to lean into those edges. But this one particular time with the one-on-one deep dive, so intimate to just to be one-on-one. And for her to see me and witness me in all of what happened that day, right? I was just moving so much energy and it was just so powerful to have her there, her support, her love, her witnessing, seeing me, right? And so, you know, ask for help, ask for support, ask for witnessing, you know, create that space to feel, create that space to connect with your loved one on the other side.
Rest, let yourself rest, let yourself hydrate, take good care of your mind, body, and spirit as you're going through and approaching and going through the death anniversaries, right? Create an altar, right, to support you in remembering throughout the year this person or people that you want to honor or furry friends. Siba, my dog is on my altar right now. I need to, you know, I need to actually create a new altar because all my stuff is still in storage, you guys. So I am in this process of really moving through this home space and feeling like it's time for the next thing within the next year.
But yeah, my other furry friends will be on there and, you know, my mom, my stepfather. And so, there's all these ways that we can support ourselves through these times. And I do want to stress again, drinking water, right, or putting your feet on the earth. All these basic foundational ways that we know are good for us, you got to do that even more in these highly emotional moments in time.
And the hydration is so important, especially if you're crying and, you know, you're tired and you got to just keep taking care of yourself, just love on yourself. Because it's so easy in these moments to just be like, fuck it, I feel like shit, right? It can just like kind of collapse into it versus being conscious in it. There's two ways that you can relate to these moments. You can feel like a victim to your emotions, or you can trust that something powerful is happening through you and being aware during the process.
It literally is night and day. And I've experienced both. And when you do it from a conscious place, which includes all the self care and, you know, asking for support and all the things that I mentioned, then you feel empowered, you feel connected, you feel like you are held. Because the other way, when you're in, you know, feeling like a victim to your emotions, you feel disconnected, you feel sorry for yourself, you don't take as good care of your body or mind or your spirit. You, you know, you may have stories that come up in your head that, you know, you're alone and nobody cares about you.
And so you won't reach out for support because you're believing those stories. So you want to notice what is happening in your mind during these times, right? Like it's about the letting the emotions move through, but also noticing what is happening in your narratives, right?
What is the narrative that is going through your mind? Because depending on what that narrative is, can make your experience feel like suffering, or the other could be just being in the flow of nature, right? Because grieving, feeling any emotions that are true and need to move through you is being in nature. Nature is our most powerful teacher, right? The divine created nature. And if we look around and see what is happening in nature, then we can also trust our process, surrender to the process, surrender to life, surrender to our experience and know that we're in a cycle because that's what nature is.
Constant cycles of seasons, right? In the next season, and it's just all of this unfolding. And that's the same thing that's happening within our lives, inside of us and around us. If we can tune into our own cycles, right? On a small micro level and on bigger levels and in the in-betweens, right? If you're tuned in to your body, then you will tune more in to your cycle and know intuitively what you need in that moment, right?
Just like I said, I texted my friend this morning, are you free? Right? So it's like, you got to be vulnerable. You got to be willing to be seen, right?
If you're trying to hide, then you can isolate yourself and feel like it can spiral into loneliness or despair, right? Instead of having a moment of feeling, oh, this is uncomfortable to ask for help, but doing that can completely shift the whole process for you, right? So like really listening to what it is that you really need. And I know a lot of people who follow me and work with me tend to be people who are always helping everybody else, right? Are overgivers and putting their attention on everyone else and prioritizing everyone else and not prioritizing themself or their needs. And so they have been in a practice of not even knowing what they need and that might be you.
And so this is all about really tuning in to your subtleties, right? Like what is your body asking for? What is it that your heart needs right now what is it that you feel is, you know, saying, please give me this and then give it to it, right? Give it to your body, give it, give it to your heart. It's so important to be in this practice of self love, right? And really treating your body and your spirit and your heart and your mind, you're all of you with reverence in this way to not abandon yourself. It's easy for us to have a habit and a pattern of abandoning ourselves over and over again, most human beings, because most of us have been abandoned, if not all, right? And so we need to relearn and reteach ourselves, retrain ourselves to not abandon ourselves, to actually hold ourselves at the highest level with pure love, with reverence, with this deep honoring of our heart and our needs. And then give it to yourself, give it to yourself, give yourself permission to ask, to receive, to feel.
It's really a beautiful process. And, you know, I've been tender all day. I was tender yesterday, I was tender on Sunday.
The last three days I've been tender. And, you know, I love that one of these women in a mastermind I'm in said to me today, she said something, I don't remember how she said it, but basically, like she was like, I see your magic Po and how you hold tenderness. And I really love that because one of my medicines is tenderness. And it took a long time for me to accept that belt myself because I hated being so sensitive for so long. And so, you know, once I embraced this part of me, it became a superpower, right? It became something that helped me to support other people once I was able to be with my own feelings. And that's why so many of my clients, I'm holding space for their inner children.
I'm like their mama bear for their inner children, that tenderness that I'm able to connect with so deeply within myself, I'm able to hold space and guide people in their tenderness. Right. And that's the thing that so many people are trying to avoid. That grief is so tender. It's so, so tender. And it's living under the anger. And you know, I, you know, do the anger alchemy work. And I've said this before, but like, I'm not focusing on anger because I think it's more important. I focus on anger because most people are afraid to feel their anger, but you need to, in order to really drop into the grief underneath.
Right. If we're blocking ourselves from feeling the anger, then how do you drop into the grief? And, and again, the reason why we drop into the grief, why we want to do that and allow ourselves to do that is because the love is there.
That's when you feel all the compassion, such deep love where your heart opens and cracks open. And you're able to receive love on a whole nother level. You're able to give love on a whole nother level. You're able to connect and have deeper levels of intimacy and connection and vulnerability with people, your loved ones, whoever, clients, right? Connection is everything.
And so that's why it's so important. All right. So I think that's all I have to say. I hope that this episode is supportive for you. If it is, please tag me in a story and share what opened up for you or just share it on your stories. Let other people know that this kind of support is available for them to give them permission to feel, right? Because so many times the conditioning of our culture is saying to shut down, don't feel here, you know, shove this in your mouth, put this in front of your face, you know, do anything at all costs to not feel. And so you can support the culture and the collective by sharing this episode. And I always love to reshare it on my stories too. So I hope it's helpful. And just to recap, create space for yourself to feel so you can let things, you know, the emotions move through, ask for support or witnessing, rest, self-care, drink water, nature, right?
Really creating that time for you to just be and like hydrate and like take care of your body. And then creating an altar, right, to really create more space for connection with your loved one on the other side. And know that, you know, some of you, I don't know what your beliefs are, but my belief is that their spirits are here with us. And, you know, grief starts to create this new relationship.
You can start to really develop this new relationship with your loved one on the other side. That may be another episode I do at some point, but anyway, I hope these tips are supportive for you. All right, until next time, you guys.
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Today marks the anniversary of my mom’s passing and my body remembers everything.
In this episode, I bring you into my process of grief as I share how I am paying reverence to my mom and my tools for creating space for grief to move and for love to come through. I explore how the body holds onto our memories and traumas, how grief moves in cycles that often mirror our life's journey, and foundational practices and self-care tips to help you honor your grief.
Join me as we embrace our sensitivity and tenderness, and discover how these qualities can aid in our grief process and work. Let's create more space for connection with our loved ones on the other side and learn to honor the grief within us.
I dive into:
- Honoring my grief and my mom on her death anniversary
- My process for moving grief through the body & how I guide others to do the same
- Understanding the natural cycles of grief and how they reflect our life experiences
- Grief as love: what’s possible when we stop repressing or numbing our grief
- My favorite ways to practice intentional connection with my loved ones on the other side
- Self-care tips for your grieving process: support, hydration, rest, and nature
- And more
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